KILLING GODS

 

I’ve become a father few months ago. As the months pass and my son becomes active, I too became an active parent. With my child going around all over the places and trying to put everything in his mouth I’m supposed to be the vigilant agent.

My son crawls so fast that I have to jump to catch him on time before he falls. He stands on his own by grabbing anything available. Sometimes even my own bears pay the price of a ladder. As I watch my son moves and me being in his ways the title of this article struck me.

For those of you who have babies or have seen babies growing up, you will agree with me that babies have no fear at all.
They do not know neither care about obstacles. They only know and see what they want to take. If my son sees something on the sofa that he wants to take. He run and jump to take it, no mater what stands on his way.
He might fell down if I fail to catch him. He will cry and I’d be consoling him but soon after the pain passed, my boy is back to his initial goal.

When he goes fast, I’d tell him to slow;
When he’s playing with something dangerous, I’d tell him not to;
When we have visitors at home and they take him and he cries, I’d take him right away…

So here I am turning a fearless human being into a fearful one. Taking him away from danger and pushing him into what I believe to be normal. What struck me the most is a look I took into the future. I realized that few months later I’d be still the same person forcing my son to be fearless, to face people, to like or dislike whoever he wants to. Unfortunately he won’t have the memory to say: “ Dad, why do you force me to what you denied me to do?” Of course, I have and I believe you too have the right answer: “I did it for your safety”  

It reminded me of a sentence from John Lennon song, working class hero: “ As soon as you're born, they make you feel small, By giving you no time instead of it all” am I unfortunately making him small and killing the god in him because of love?

Babies start off being so full of self-esteem, the highest level ever.But they are unfortunately grind down by loving parents, educators and then by society as they grow up.

I know that one day I’ll sit down with my son telling him:

You have to be strong,

You have to take risk;

You have to measure yourself up to life,

You have to speak your mind,

Before asking for advice from someone else, ask yourself first son,

You have to do what you want without hurting others,

Most of all do not ask of God what you are willing to ask of yourself,

I might want him to continue whatever I’ve started.

But right now, I’ve made up my mind not to stop him whenever:

He climbs the table;

He rushes himself through the doors and obstacles,

But I’ll be there right behind him, so if he slips, he’ll fall on me.